To The Ince Girls

Ince girls,

Hi girls, my name is Karen Roeb, and I have had the pleasure of getting to know your
mom over the last year. Your mom has asked me to write to you to talk about her surrogacy journey from my point of view, and I could not be more honored. As I write this letter, your mom is about a week away from giving birth to her surrogate baby.

First, let me tell you a little bit about myself, and the role I play in your mom’s life. For twenty years of my life, I was a nurse in the field of Obstetrics, Gynecology and Infertility. Every day, I had the privilege and honor of watching parents’ dreams come true. I had the chance to witness thousands of births,
I had the honor of sitting alongside thousands of parents as they heard their child’s heartbeat for the first time, and I had the privilege of sharing the most intimate moments with these parents. Throughout my time as a nurse, I also witnessed some not so happy days. I was in the room as women were told they would not be able to have children. I performed ultrasounds on women, only to not hear a heartbeat. Through my experiences, I realized that I wanted to create a place where parents, who could not have children on their own, could come to make
their dreams become a reality. This is when I opened Fertility Miracles—a third party
reproductive agency. As a mother, I could not imagine my life without my children. My children are the greatest gifts of my life, and I know your mother feels the same way, and your mother decided to give that gift to someone else.

When your mom told you she was going to become a surrogate, it may have been the
first time you have heard that word. You may have been very confused as to why-or how-  your mom was going to carry someone else’s baby. The medical field has made wonderful advancements.

The decision to carry a child for someone else is one of the most selfless decisions a woman can make. When your mom decided to become a surrogate, she decided to
give the most precious gift—the gift of life. Your mom also agreed to potential morning
sickness, back pain, feeling generally uncomfortable, and taking time off of work.

I think the very decision to become a surrogate shows a woman’s true character—and that is a woman made up of compassion, love, selflessness and the desire to give back. Your mom chose to work with a couple that was unable to conceive on their own. Your mom chose to make their dreams, become their reality, and I hope you know how special that is.

Your mom’s journey has not been the easiest, or most comfortable. You may have
noticed a difference in your own life, as your mom was put on bed rest. This may have been some what shocking for you, and your everyday life. I want to thank you for being patient, and understanding of the process. By allowing your mom to rest, you, also, have contributed to giving the greatest gift.

Your mom’s spirit has never changed; despite being put on bed rest. Your moms zest for life has not weakened. Your mom’s selflessness is as evident as ever. Every day, woman such as your mother inspires me, and I hope you are too. Women like your mother make this world a better, brighter place, and I am lucky to know her.

If you ever have any questions about the surrogacy process, I would be happy to talk.

All my best,

Karen Roeb